T is for Treats & Tantrums

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T is also for toddler and I know that tantrums come with the territory… However with the arrival of a new baby into the house too we are currently trying to distinguish the norm versus the extra ones thrown in for good measure with the recent changes.

I’ve said in recent posts how great Josh has been directly with Max but coming up to his arrival and since the tantrum level has really taken hold. It was something we didn’t really experience up until then so we got a good run, I know!


With the tantrums are also coming a lot of treats and the two don’t marry well. If he’s having tantrums he shouldn’t really be getting treats but again with the new arrival there have been pressies for Josh too and then with his birthday in the middle it has felt like a never ending party and now we have Christmas around the corner too. 

What he constitutes as ‘treats’ has also got up a notch. A fruit pouch or juicy orange used to suffice where now on occasion a biscuit is rejected for not being ‘treaty’ enough!!!!


Of course we are trying to handle these demands and these tantrums like grown adults and put into practice our good parenting skills but to be honest with sleep deprivation and our lives having gotten so much busier we can let things slip and give in more often than not. {most of the sleep deprivation is still coming from the toddler by the way but that is for another post}. 

Josh is a smart little guy, too smart at times and most definitely plays to our weaknesses both with tantrums and treats. It’s a vicious cycle. We’ve given him a bit of slack but his time is running out so hard ball is just around the corner… I’m not sure how that’s going to go and we may just fold at the first hurdle but I’m hoping we don’t because it’s time to get some balance back even if that is a little less as a family of four!

To be continued.. 😉

A perfect mummy day…

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First off I don’t think perfection exists in parenthood and as a former perfectionist this was a lesson I’ve had to learn over the last 2 and a half years… 
However in my dreamlike state before our 6am wake up call this is what the ‘perfect’ day looks like to me on my days off with Josh or even the weekends…

Josh wakes at 7, we ramble down to breakfast together. I eat something healthy and nutritious and Josh gobbles some brekkie goodness I have given him.
Josh gets an hour of tv time while I get ready and do some jobs and we are ready for the day ahead. There is no dodie in gob!
We go for a walk and return mid morning to do some jigsaws/colouring or other such fun activity. At weekends he might be at a booked activity swimming, football or rugby tots.

Then it’s time for a nap so Josh rubs his eyes, we go upstairs, read a story and he is out for the count for an hour or so…
During this time, first I have a cup of tea whilst watching some day time tv then I get to preparing some delicious dinner. 
Josh wakes and we have lunch together. He eats what I give him and once we are cleared up we head out for an hour or two.
In the afternoon we go out, meet someone or go to the playground/airfield or some other such activity, we have a cuppa/snack together then go home for some ‘down time’ before dada arrives home during the week!
Bath time is fun and easy and teeth washing comes with little resistance…

We watch a quick episode of Dora on our bed while having his cup of milk then in for 2 stories before drifting off into a slumber that does not wake him again until 7am or if he fancies it at the weekends 7.30 is fine with us…
The reality is that to be fair a lot of this does happen from day to day but as it is life with a toddler can be unpredictable and one wrong turn, incorrect temperature on his milk or the wrong book chosen before bedtime can turn a nice moment into a catastrophe. It is not only him, you can start the day full of vigour and my the end of the day be utterly exhausted and that gets in the way too. Days you come home from work should be filled with quality time and catch ups but sometimes all you are all fit for is a snack, the couch and a catch up in between Paw Patrol. 

Just like everything in parenthood, there is the ideals and then there is the reality! Saying that there is nearly always perfect moments in every day and that I am very thankful for. 

Blog Awards Shortlist

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I was delighted to make it onto the blog awards long list and so super thrilled to make it onto the short list which I found out about last week which was a lovely start to my return from holidays.

Well the nominations open today and and whilst I know I said one of my September Start mottos was going to be tone down my social media I think I may have to remind you a few times during this month to nominate as now it’s completely down to public bite. So here’s the link, get voting and of course please share if you feel my little blog deserves a vote!

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